Anger Problems

[MATS]

I have had anger Managment problmes since b4 i can remember but lately i have been getting really really mad...
I cant control my self at all when i get angry people have to tell me what i said. The other day a kid hit me in the leg with a stick so i started choking him it took 2 adults to brake it up.im afraid that some time soon i'll get really mad and just do something that i cant take back. I already have a very bad reputation usually kids think of me as a spaz wich dosnt help the anger problems

[abrannan]

Have you tried any anger management therapy? I've seen it do wonders for people.

[MATS]

i did once when i was like 5 or 6 and i dont remember it i would like to know what they do first before i go

[abrannan]

Matt said:

i did once when i was like 5 or 6 and i dont remember it i would like to know what they do first before i go

You talk. You talk about what makes you angry, how you feel when you get angry, how you feel after you get angry, etc. Then you work together with the therapist to develop strategies of things you can do to help control yourself when you feel yourelf start getting angry. Therapy is not like that really bad "Anger Management" movie. It's a very easy, very safe process.

[MATS]

but it costs loads and loads of money

[abrannan]

Matt said:

but it costs loads and loads of money

Doesn't have to. Yes, private therapists who don't take medical insurance can run $100 per 1 hour session. But a lot of community centers run anger management support groups that are a lot cheaper, sometimes even free, and they give you the benefit of knowing that you're not alone, and you can talk with other people who are going through the same things you are. Do a couple of searches online, or in your local paper.

[MATS]

thanks i'll do some research

[SSC]

Anger Management wasn't a bad movie...

I myself have sometimes had anger management problems, not as bad as some people I can imagine, but there are just some things that trigger my anger, where all I can see is red. (Figure of speech... )

Basically, over the years I've just done my best to calm down, especially playing some football and a lot of videogames has taught me better discipline, by just trying to simply take a deep breath instead of flipping out. DDR however makes me mad sometimes, I [last week] punched a hole in my wall and now have to give my parents money. Great.

[MATS]

My anger+foot+tv+wall=^^

[SSC]

Ooh... not good methinks.

[abrannan]

Yeah, to steal a phrase from 1984(the book, not the year), ++ungood

[Laura Moncur]

Just remember that anger is just a method of hiding fear. We get angry when we're scared. It's a method of protecting ourselves.

Whenever you get angry, train yourself to think, "What am I scared of?" Sometimes just identifying the fear is enough to defuse the anger. Sometimes you have to solve the problem that is scaring you, but most of the time, just acknowledging that you are really afraid and not angry is enough to calm you down.

[iamjay]

Goose-Fraba

[LegendofMatt]

Yeah my friend roy spazzes out badly cause of pad miss, i used to get pretty pissed about some of the dumbest things, you just gotta chill out and take a step back, remember everything you do has a consequence/affect. Good job on the 1984 quote!!! DOUBLE PLUS UN-GOOD!!!!

[abrannan]

Yeah, getting angry over a missed step is really bad, because you'll tense up and miss more steps, which leads to more anger, which leads to more missed steps, Which leads...

Which is why whenever I find myself getting angry at a video game, the first thing I do is turn it off and walk away. Because if I'm getting that angry at an inanimate object, it's time to take a step back.

[Sheeblars]

I have tourettes syndrome and what made it worse was holding it in. I wasn't allowed to express my feelings really at home without being penalized so I'd have huge fits where I'd nearly give myself a heart attack. I would cry almost every night violently. My motor and vocal tics would increase with my bad moods and it just wasn't fun at all. I wasn't a bad kid..I was just forced to hold how I felt in.

You need an outlet to get it out, if you can't take out your frustrations with words; play games, write a journal just get it out. The key word here isn't control, its release. If you don't get it out in non violent ways you're going to end up inflicting pain on yourself and others.

I met someone online 5 years ago that changed my life. I finally had an outlet; someone I could relate to. He loved games like me and had similar problems (OCD and Tics) and the biggie, no one to talk to who understood.

So get it down, get it out and find people like you who you can relate to. Now don't go running around the net looking for someone because that won't always end well but get your feelings down somewhere.


If I didn't have art and my best friend I'd go crazy well..more crazy. Which reminds me. Art is a wonderful outlet. Your skill level doesn't matter. There was a poster in my pottery teachers classroom that said something like "Those who don't create things that express who they are are lost" ( If anyone knows the proper quote please let me know or post it)

Any hobby will do really. Just find something productive you enjoy, it will do great things for you.

My favorite art teacher when I was in high school, he actually had a painting that he did when he was angry at the school board. He punched a hole through foam and then calmed himself down by painting around the hole. Now he has a memory AND a painting.

[FatMan]

Matt,

I've found that the best thing for rage is to get away first and foremost. You have to practice to recognize when the rage is coming and get away from targets before it takes over.

Once I learned to recognize its onset, I would walk until I couldn't stand anymore or I had lost the edge of anger and was prepared to handle things again.

For my methods, the activity has to burn energy and not be fun either.