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Post by eotc2 on Apr 6, 2004 23:08:49 GMT -5
I've been depressed for 4 months now and been on antidepressants for about 3 months. I feel like I'm getting better, but sometimes I feel just as bad. I dont have suicidal thoughts, but I do think about death and how much people would miss me if I died. Family life is somewhat rough. Parents are divorced and I moved in with my dad and I'm beggining to think it was a big mistake. Now I dont know if I want to move back home or stay or what. My dad thinks I can just snap out of depression, but it's not that easy.
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Post by Elegantly Wasted on Apr 7, 2004 20:20:44 GMT -5
Even though I would h8te to admit this, I was on Anti-Depressants for about a month before I realized that it wasn't doing anything for me. Have you pinpointed the reasons why you're taking them? Sometimes, what happens with parents is that they feel as if their children are putting on an act. To seek some kind of attention. This is because they don't want to admit that they are the ones at fault. Your Father cares for you, but sometimes he may look at you and think to himself that he has failed as a father, hense the fact that he thinks you can just snap out of depression. My dear, think about where you want to be and how 'you' can actually achieve that. How old are you anyway? I know it feels like it's the worst time in your life, but this can either make you or break you. Take care of YOU..
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Post by quadrollersk8r on Apr 8, 2004 0:58:48 GMT -5
same here, used to be on antidepressants and finally realized the problem couldnt be solved with a pill, but by self management. Depression is a serious illness, my best suggestion is to surround yourself with positive things, freinds, music you like, loved ones. Keep your head up, one day at a time.
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Post by Elegantly Wasted on Apr 8, 2004 1:05:30 GMT -5
It's hard to deal when you're going through a depression.. and "quad" is right.. You really can't solve it with a pill. I did however, surrounded myself with positive people and music really helped. Writing helps too.. There are days when you n33d to write the most depressing things about your life and when you're feeling your best, you look back on it. I know how hard it is to feel like there is no way out. Just take it one day at a time 
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Post by rapmasterdragon on Apr 10, 2004 2:56:32 GMT -5
my 2 cents. zoloft = bad
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Post by MainMor on Apr 10, 2004 9:56:17 GMT -5
I have been through the entire depression thing... so I know exactly how you feel.
Find something you really like to do... then really get into it.
For me... my depression was that I just felt lonely...even though I really wasn't. Because I enjoyed anime, I went and got active in an anime club in which I eventually became president.
That was long ago...
But now, I will do other things... sometimes I write... or sometimes I just try and learn something new.
If I feel a little lonely now... I embrace it and I spend the time reflecting on myself and looking at how I can improve things in my life.
Sometimes I will end up just making something... or I will plan for something.
Or... I will just pull out that DDR pad and play until I cannot stand... and then I will flop down and spend the afternoon sleeping or watching some TV...feeling realllll.... goood....
got those endorphines kicking in making me feel sweet.
Just know that it only gets better... I look back at my highschool years and I shake my head and grin. Right now... part of your situation is out of your hands...so live by the "Forget it"Philosophy. You have 0 control over that situation...so don't give it a 2nd thought. ...
Work on what you can control....and the part you cannot control? It will work itself out.
Back in highschool I used to worry about the future all the time... if I was having such a hard time then... what the heck is going to happen when I was out of school?
Sure we have what seems to be bigger problems... but... and this is the best part... most of the problems we have now, we are in control of... or we learned not to worry about them.
When you hit that point... you will really be free.
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Post by Elegantly Wasted on Apr 12, 2004 3:14:32 GMT -5
Right on Mainmor ;D ;D
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Post by jrd on Apr 16, 2004 7:56:19 GMT -5
I will just pull out that DDR pad and play until I cannot stand... and then I will flop down and spend the afternoon sleeping or watching some TV...feeling realllll.... goood.... got those endorphines kicking in making me feel sweet. That's the best advice anyone can give, you need some sort of release. For some it could be just DDR-ing, for me, it's putting on one of my fav "angry" songs, and singin' along with it. The only thing I can say is try accept the things that you can't control, and learn from the things, that you can control so they don't happen again. |
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Post by MainMor on Apr 16, 2004 8:22:11 GMT -5
for me, it's putting on one of my fav "angry" songs, and singin' along with it. Oooh now that is really fun too... just belting out something angry...lol I have done that with Du Hast before... I am going to plunk down some cash for some boxing equipment... I heard that is an awesome release as well. |
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Post by jrd on Apr 18, 2004 13:15:02 GMT -5
Boxing is great as a stress relief providing that the punching bag doesn't punch back at ya..
I use to box as an amatuer and it was great cardio as well. I dropped about 30 pounds in 2 months from it.
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Post by Elegantly Wasted on Apr 18, 2004 13:17:37 GMT -5
I've never actually "box" But seeing that I'm from brooklyn, I did get into a lot of fights,.. LOL>. that was a workout
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Post by xcoolethanx on Apr 19, 2004 17:35:45 GMT -5
i'm on prozac myself and it's cool i only kill out of anger now, instead of fun.
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Post by quadrollersk8r on Apr 19, 2004 20:01:32 GMT -5
hey, now that was uncalled for! Do you kiss your mommy with that mouth?
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Post by Mar on Apr 28, 2004 5:07:10 GMT -5
Depression is bad, obviously. Ive been kind of depressed most of my life. I try to cope with laughter and the stuff I like to do. I dont believe in pills and that sort of thing. The best way to get rid of depression is to know why you're depressed and try to fix it. I know why Im depressed, and Im trying to fix that now so I can be happier in the future. I still deal with it a lot, but it really helps to not think "Im so depressed, etc etc.", ya know? Thinking positivly is the best drug, hehe. Being happy is super important.
You can pretend to be happy at first, and in the end, you will be for real. As a lot of you have said, doing what you love to do is a great way to fight depression. I draw when Im sad, because I focus all of my feelings and put it into a picture. Those sad times are when I make my best drawings. When IM feeling down, I sing. I just think of songs that are really challenging vocally and I sing the song until I can sing it perfectly. I dont think that medication is the best way to go, but thats jut my opinion. And, there's nothing wrong with crying either. Its just a way to vent. Let it all out. Cry out your sadness/anger. It works for me!
ok im done...
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Post by iamjay on Apr 28, 2004 21:27:42 GMT -5
i've been depressed before but not day after day. go do something fun like the arcade (DDR) you'll meet fun people to hang with, that's what i did. plus my best friend mary Jane helps me with alot of my problems. Whenever she's around I feel safe and cheerful. She even makes me laugh alot.(I dont laugh alot, so i'm glad I met her)  Maybe you can move out? how old are you? Get a job where people respect you, that's prolly the best job out there.(doesnt matter how much you make as long as the people around you respect you for who u are) |
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Post by Jennifer on Apr 30, 2004 20:54:44 GMT -5
This may sound silly to some people, but I've found the best way to deal with depression is to act happy even when you aren't. Actions beget feelings, they really do. We do have some (although not complete) control over our feelings. Medical and/or psychological help can be a blessing as well, but really some of your destiny is in your hands.
I have had to deal with depression twice in my life - once as a teenager, and then post-partum depression. I never sought medical help for it (although particularly with the PPD I think I probably should have). But I found the best thing I could possibly do for myself is force myself to smile, FORCE myself to interact with other people in positive ways, avoid toxic people and situations, and just make the effort to be happy. I'm not saying this to make it sound easy, I know its not, and there were times I had to literally DRAG myself out of my bed, then FORCE myself to get dressed, and claw my way out of my house and into positive interactions. I know it is NOT easy, but I have honestly come to believe that being as happy as you can possibly be is a *moral* obligation to other people in your life. When you are depressed, you are not the only one suffering, unfortunately the people you live with and interact with have to suffer from the negative impact of your depression as well. I know that when you are depressed every inch of your being is telling you to stay depressed (kind of like an object at rest remains at rest, and object in motion will remain in motion).. you have to kick and scream and claw your way out of the pit as best you can. Medication may help you endure and mobilize yourself but the burden still is on you to have action as well. Remember you owe it not only to yourself but to everyone who crosses your path.
All the best and many hugs to you.
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Post by jrd on May 6, 2004 6:08:43 GMT -5
I've dont that a couple of times and it has worked, still for me nothing beats out those 'angry songs' to sing along with , plus some good old ddr-ing.
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Post by abrannan on May 28, 2004 10:05:49 GMT -5
Okay, someone here has to stick up for medication. Sometimes depression is actually caused by a chemical imbalance. In my case, I've had a happy life. I grew up in a loving and happy family, I'm happily married, I have a beautiful house, I have a job I enjoy, and I have a lot of outside interests to keep me fulfilled. But I still drop into fairly severe depression from time to time. Medication worked for me (Wellbutrin, in my case), as does exercise (for the endorphins). I would highly recommend seeing a Psychologist (not a psychiatrist), and talking things out to determine possible causes of the depression. If the two of you determine that medicationis an avenue you want to explore, then your psychologist will refer you out to a psychiatrist for medication.
The brain is a very tricky organ, and sometimes problems are emotional, sometimes they're chemical, sometimes they're both. But you owe it to yourself to find what works for you, and not discount anything because of what some people you don't even know have said.
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Post by Asteroid on Jun 4, 2004 2:59:09 GMT -5
might be obvious but DONT take out your depression/anger on other people, ive been locked-up it sucks, its like prison but safer..abit, people still try to kill you and sometimes they succeed. food is crap, staff is mean, they drug you heavily, unless you totally hate your family i would never recommend going.
find someone to talk to, chatrooms are nice but there are some crazy people who say negative stuff.
Oh i take wellbutrin too, its amazing =o
so is Seroquel, makes me see stuff =)
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Post by LibertyCabbage on Jun 9, 2004 14:23:28 GMT -5
I battled depression during my first year of grad school. It was difficult living in a new city by myself, and having and endless amount of work and very little contact with my girlfriend (now wife). The difficulty of Grad school made me use "Everquest" as an escape mechanism that reulted in me feeling really empty as a human being. It was all either school work or EQ, little to no real social life. EQ is bad i tell you.
Anyway i eventually got so fed up with myself that i locked all my video games in a closet and deleted them all off my computer and forced myself to do other things. Exercise always works when i'm down or pissed. Also sleeping works great. But mostly you should try to surround yourself with people who are important to you. That and stay hydrated, its amazing how many different weird ways that not getting enough water will effect you.
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