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Post by FaerieLink3 on Apr 16, 2004 13:23:30 GMT -5
I think that mos ppl just assume when they are 'in love' with someone, that means that person's traits, personality, or opinions is going to be on the same level as them. Unfortunately, us being humans, we tend not to be so easy going as we like to believe. So they get distraunt when they learn that the person they 'love' didn't 'love' them back the same way. Love to me, is when you accept the person for who they are, despite their differences from your own traits, and you really enjoyed the way they treat you despite that. But most of us (even me at times) tend to hold on to the ideal of what we think the person we are in love should be instead of 'who' they actually are. Yep... you hit the nail on the head...there are just too many people who are out to MAKE the pefect person ...rather than take the person that they have... so... i think if the person is not what you want..let them go... do not try and change them... and dont settle either... there are SO MANY people in this world...someone is bound to be more compatable... hehehehe.... i used to be the queen of changing people...and wow...that blew up in my face enough that i got the idea  |
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Post by Elegantly Wasted on Apr 16, 2004 16:37:47 GMT -5
;D ;D ;D I will always love Jessica ;D ;D ;D
But, I guess until I meet someone special.. I will know..
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Post by MainMor on Apr 16, 2004 18:18:40 GMT -5
You got that right Maria... you will just know.
You won't expect it to happen...it just kind of happens.
When I met my wife... I thought she was the wierdest person. It took us about a year before we became friends... then about another before we even started dating.
It is because we are night and day different. Her personality and her hobbies are WAY different than mine...lol
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Post by jrd on Apr 17, 2004 22:15:31 GMT -5
You'll know when it feels like that person could be the one, but it takes real effort to find out if he/she 'is' someone you really want to start a lifetime 'adventure' with as I always say..
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Post by Elegantly Wasted on Apr 19, 2004 3:02:38 GMT -5
I don't know you guys.. Maybe it's all because I was jaded by an idiot.. Sometimes it takes one a$$ (or a few) to change your views on this topic of "Love".. I've stopped looking for it.. I have practically given up on the whole "love" thing and have ruled it as something that only happens in movies or to others and ... not me. Yet, I still play it cool. I have my friends and my dysfunctional family to keep me going mad for years to come. Maybe one day i will find love..( yeah right LMAO). Or maybe not...
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Post by jrd on Apr 19, 2004 8:55:53 GMT -5
I have my friends and my dysfunctional family to keep me going mad for years to come. Maybe one day i will find love..( yeah right LMAO). Or maybe not... Sounds like my plans.. Don't worry you'll find love.. If not you've always got us.. ;D |
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Post by Elegantly Wasted on Apr 19, 2004 11:11:41 GMT -5
Awww shucks.... HUGGGGZ thankies..  |
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Post by Mar on Apr 28, 2004 5:32:28 GMT -5
To me, love is an emotion that takes control of who you are, and changes you for the better. I always had an idea of what I wanted in my "prince charming". A nice guy, who loved me for who I was on the inside. Someone who cared about me more than they did about themselves. A man who listens and understands. Most woman have the same idea. Unfortunately, most men arnt like that. And as woman find out that most ment are only after one thing, they tend to feel like prince charming will never come. I say this out of "experience" (I quote that because i just recently turned 19  ). Once you stop looking, that one special man will come to you. You'll meet at the most unexpected place of all. Then you'll realize that prince charming really does exsist. Then you find out what love really is. It's the most beautiful thing in the world. To me, it's knowing that you're going to spend the rest of your life with someone you really care about. Just thinking about them makes you happy. Sorry for making this long, but I have to share this story with you guys. I'll try to make it short! Yeah, I met my prince charming. We've been dating for almost a year (May 13th, 1 year!!!) I had stopped searching for someone to love at the same time I started playing DDR. About 8 months playing DDR at my local arcade, one of my friend's brothers (they both played DDR at the same arcade) started talking to me on-line. I thought nothing of it at first. But I started to get to know him, and he was everything I ever wanted in a guy, and he felt the same way about me. so we started dating and things just got better and better. I know I'm only 19, still a little kid, but I know Im going to spend a long time, maybe even marry my "man", hehe. The cool thing about it is when my friends ask me where I found my prince charming... "I met him playing DDR!" ;D |
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Post by jrd on Apr 28, 2004 5:53:11 GMT -5
"I met him playing DDR!" ;D HHahahhaha- so how many of your girlfriends now have DDR pads? hehhehee. I love it. |
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Post by iamjay on Apr 28, 2004 13:01:08 GMT -5
yeah i'll be playing DDr At canada's wonderland like crazy this sumer since it's 20min away. hopefully I meet people there |
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Post by Mar on Apr 28, 2004 20:24:42 GMT -5
Hehe. Its the pick-a-date revolution!  |
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Post by jrd on Apr 29, 2004 5:45:23 GMT -5
We don't have arcades here to even try pick-a-date revolution  |
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Post by Mar on Apr 30, 2004 16:19:29 GMT -5
 where do you live? There's gotta be a DDR machiene around your area! There isnt an arcade in the city im in, I have to go to neighbouring cities to play.
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Post by psmo290 on May 5, 2004 12:12:04 GMT -5
that sux, i live in gilbert and it's right next to mesa. I sorta live like right at the border so my nearest arcade that have 2 ddr machines (max2 and extreme) is like 10 mins away.
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Post by jrd on May 6, 2004 6:06:56 GMT -5
where do you live? There's gotta be a DDR machiene around your area! There isnt an arcade in the city im in, I have to go to neighbouring cities to play. From a floating rock in the Atlantic Ocean called Bermuda.. We have alot of modern things, but an arcade isn't one of them.  |
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Post by Jennifer on May 7, 2004 11:08:04 GMT -5
I've been with the same man for nearly 10 years, married for over 5 of those years. We are in a blissfully happy marriage with a wonderful daughter.
Love is security, comfort, respect. When you're in love you are truly comfortable being you, 100%, in the presence of your beloved. Similarly you love your beloved no matter how ugly it gets.
A defining point in my relationship was when my husband and I returned from our honeymoon. I had gotten food poisoning on the plane ride back from Europe. (Side note: Never eat airplane shrimp.) BAD food poisoning. Whatever disgusting gastrointestinal ill you can possibly imagine was hitting me with full force. My husband showed me nothing but empathy and concern. He held my hair while I vomitted, he cleaned up whatever involuntary mess my poor diseased body made without complaint. The term "the honeymoon is over" took on a whole new meaning then. I was embarassed and miserable, but at the same time it was beautiful in that I realized I was in a true marriage; that I was truly loved and taken care.
When you love someone, you love them when they aren't particularly lovable. When they are sick or depressed or angry or stressed. You love them when they change. You try to change with them when you can, and respect and support them fully when you can't. You work to mesh your life with theirs, you are willing to give and sacrifice. You can't control another person, but you can control you, and when you are truly in love you do what YOU can every day possible to serve that person and make them happier. When both sides really try to do this, is when you have REAL love.
MainMor I think has it right, and before I even saw how many kids he had or how long he had been in a relationship, I thought it was clear he was speaking from experience and is probably what I consider a *REAL* man, who takes responsibility and family seriously (far too rare these days).
I know a lot of you are younger, but just remember when you do find the right person, it DOES indeed take work on your part, and sticking through hard times. I think part of the reason the divorce rate is so darn high is because our social attitude is "if this isn't good for me *right now*, I have to move on to the next thing". Real, fierce love isn't movable by the regular adversities of life. It adheres and endures almost everything. While there are of course a few "deal breakers" in any relationship (abuse for example) almost anything can be conquered if you're truly committed.
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Post by jrd on May 7, 2004 13:24:33 GMT -5
Nicely put Jen. |
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Post by DevilHunterWolf on May 7, 2004 16:05:18 GMT -5
Wow.........
After reading your post Jennifer, I must say it touched me. I now believe that the person I'm in love with is someone that I really love. Too bad life doesn't always work out for everyone. To love and not able to have it return is something that I hope nobody has to experience. It's one of my horrible love experiences that I'm glad I've recovered from. I go on with my life and continue to do well in school and life.
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). Once you stop looking, that one special man will come to you. You'll meet at the most unexpected place of all. Then you'll realize that prince charming really does exsist. Then you find out what love really is. It's the most beautiful thing in the world. To me, it's knowing that you're going to spend the rest of your life with someone you really care about. Just thinking about them makes you happy.
where do you live? There's gotta be a DDR machiene around your area! There isnt an arcade in the city im in, I have to go to neighbouring cities to play. 
