Please give me some help and advice!

harajukuxgurl
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Please give me some help and advice! Mar 21, 2009 21:11:54 GMT -5

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Post by harajukuxgurl on Mar 21, 2009 21:11:54 GMT -5

Hi everyone,

I want to lose weight hopefully by playing DDR for an hour a day and trying to eat less bad foods. I want to lose about 20 pounds. I am very self-concious of my body due to my parents's constant bashing. They keep saying I am fat and ugly, and I know I am. I have stretch marks, acne problems, and I weigh about 150, even though I am only 5'2. Everytime I eat my dad would always shake his head and say,"This is why you are so fat."
The problem is that I don't have much time to exercise since I am always pressured to study and get the prefect grades, and as for food I HAVE to eat whatever my mom cooks for dinner.
Please help with you advice, wisdom, and knowledge. I would appreciate it very much! Thank you very much!

dancin' fool
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Please give me some help and advice! Mar 23, 2009 21:55:27 GMT -5

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Post by dancin' fool on Mar 23, 2009 21:55:27 GMT -5

Boy, speaking as a mom this message really breaks my heart. :-(

I know this is not the easiest advice in the world, but I think you need to start by telling your parents that putting you down does not help, that it depresses you instead of motivating you. Tell them you would like to change your habits and need their support in finding time to exercise and in eating more healthfully. Try not to sound accusatory, just be really direct and clear about how you feel, and maybe they will hear you.

Can I tell you, as someone who's been fat all her life, that working on changing your attitude can only help? I totally support your trying to have a healthier lifestyle, but I also know that thinking of yourself as fat and ugly is self-destructive. Don't let your parents convince you that you are worthless as you are now, because you're not.

tmr263
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Please give me some help and advice! Apr 28, 2009 0:40:45 GMT -5

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Post by tmr263 on Apr 28, 2009 0:40:45 GMT -5

I'm new and trying to lose weight playing DDR too

I've had weight problems my whole life, and I'm really tall, so when I was a kid if I wasn't fat I was lurch. Eventually around when I was 17 I got sick of it and pretty much stopped eating I was 6'5 and 250 pounds, got down to 170 which was way too little for my height but then it seemed people treated me better, the world is a cold place. I got in some trouble with the law lost my license then all i could do was sit around my house, or work I gained all my weight back and now I'm 260 and 6'6. I just turned 20 a few months ago and I need to lose this damn weight once and for all.

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