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Apr 25, 2006 15:29:49 GMT -5
Post by depressedcrow21 on Apr 25, 2006 15:29:49 GMT -5
Why do I keep thinking about death and if there a afterlife. My mind wont rest i have been doing this for last 4 days or so. It jsut depresses me so freaking bad untill it makes me sick. I mean I end up makeing my self throw up. I think about my future and all sorts of things. I don't know who to talk to. Its makeing me hardly eat to. I feel like I have wasted the last few years of my life. Because I can't rember them.. Can anyone help?
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Apr 25, 2006 20:31:29 GMT -5
Post by abrannan on Apr 25, 2006 20:31:29 GMT -5
First off, you can talk to us, which you've sort of started to do. I'm not a psychologist (though I often try to be), but I'm of the opinion that those sorts of thoughts are fairly normal at your age. The thing is, making yourself sick over it is not good (but you knew that).
So let me ask you, what is it about death and the afterlife that bothers you?
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Apr 25, 2006 22:03:35 GMT -5
Post by psisar on Apr 25, 2006 22:03:35 GMT -5
Thoughts about death and an afterlife are normal, for anyone. It's when you put a little too much thought into it, to the point where you severly compromise the enjoyment of your life now (ie, drinking the Kool Aid) where you might need to put some more thought into your life *now*. You have a lot of time ahead of you, so don't stress about it. I might be a bit biased since I'm Agnostic, but there seems no sense in worrying about it when theres no way to know anyway.
Even if you think you've wasted the past few years, whats it matter? A year from now do you want to be thinking the same thing? At the risk of sounding totally cliche, tommorow can be the first day of the rest of your life. Its never too late to start over.
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Apr 26, 2006 1:23:14 GMT -5
Post by depressedcrow21 on Apr 26, 2006 1:23:14 GMT -5
Seriously now I am forgettin. But I was thinking about jsut random things. Like the end of the world and all sorts of stuff like death and where would I e But me and my grandmother talked and she gave me a nerve tablet and I am slowly forgetting. I mean it was like there was 20 thousand voices or things all going at once in my head. My grams may think its because I didnt griv when my gramps died ya know and stuff like that. I mean I was a emontional wreck. Ya know.
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May 4, 2006 8:11:56 GMT -5
Post by manystyles10 on May 4, 2006 8:11:56 GMT -5
I see....This is normal your not alone, But try do stuff that interest you...You have ur whole life ahead of you...Get your self out of thinking about those stuff....Play sports, Games,Friends, T.V...Look for a hobbie your good at or like
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May 4, 2006 12:17:56 GMT -5
Post by depressedcrow21 on May 4, 2006 12:17:56 GMT -5
I am slowly comming out of this but thoughts still linger.. I am in indiana and it seems like here all i do is get up an go to bed cause they are 1 hr ahead of my normal time
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talon
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May 4, 2006 14:40:35 GMT -5
Post by talon on May 4, 2006 14:40:35 GMT -5
belive me I know exactly where you are coming from, heck I am still there a bit myself, my topic is a bit diffrent but I know what it is like to worry about somthing twenty four hours a day, it aint fun.
the only real advice I can give you is to try to make goals for yourself, personally I have made a goal to get to Japan to teach english, in case your not sure about goals here is an outline of a proper goal.
I, (your name here), will (your goal here) by (the date you will acomplish your goal).
so here is my goal
I, Talon, will get my teaching certificate from TSOL by November 30 of 2006.
when you write a goal keep these things in mind
1. name yourself, this is important because when you re-read your goal you will see your name and it will encourage you to know that you belived in yourself to commit your name to the project or goal.
2. be specific, I didnt just say "get my teaching ticket" I said "get my teaching certificate from TSOL" I worded it that way so I have a target to hit, when it comes time for me to start my course I will be able to see exactly where I want to go.
3. always put a date on your goals, untill you have a completion date for your goal it is just a dream.
now here is how to find your goals, look inside yourself!
simple huh? no? I had an CAPP teacher once who always said that and its the advice I get most often when looking for advice from people I know, thats all well and good but what if you dont know how to look inside yourself? I have been down that road to and I have learned a thing or two. I hope my experience can help you.
when people say look inside yourself they want you to analize who you are, thats a pretty big project and most people dont specify what part they expect you to look at, you could spend years looking inwards to find out exactly who and what you are and it wouldnt be wasted time (atleast I dont think so) but we arnt looking for a life long project so lets get more specific.
what makes you excited? think about it for a few mins. what is it that makes you feel like a kid on christmas (a young child 7 or 8 who just got their first bike after asking for it all year) for me it was going to Japan, it still is, I have always wanted to go there and I could go on for hours about all the things I want to do and see and all the places I want to go while I am there. I noticed how excited I was and how good it felt to get worked up about somthing. so now I had a dream: one day I really want to go to Japan. its a nice dream but thats all it was. I didnt start doing anything with it for a long time, I put it in the back of my mind and would pull it out once in a while just to see how it was doing then I would send it back.
it took me a few years to realize I had done nothing with my life, I have spent the last three years sitting around and watching the world go by. I though its time I finally did somthing so I started reading on motivation, thats where i learned about goals. I took my dream of going to Japan and researched it. I quicky realized it would be a very hard road for me to go travel Japan as a tourist but while I was researching I came across TSOL's website and started reading. I found out I could work in Japan and make money, then during summer break I could travel around and enjoy Japan the way I wanted to. this was perfect for me so my dream changed to: one day I will teach english in Japan. its still is not a goal but we are getting closer. so I did more research and more reading, I looked into the course and got dates and enrollment options as well as offices where I could take the course. I found a start date that worked for me with my current budget to be able to afford to take the course and chose the end date of the course as the completion date of my goal. you will notice I steped my goal down, it was no longer: one day I will teach english in Japan, it was now: "I Talon will get my teaching certificate from TSOL by November 30 of 2006."
now I made this change for a good reason, if you make your completion date of your goal to far in advance (unless you are specificly making a long term goal) it will slip your mind and your progress wont seem fast enough so you may get discouraged. I cut my goal down into parts, the first part is the certificate, the second part will be my working visa, then my passport, then a job in Japan, then the ticket and finally actually getting on the plane (I am afraid of flying) by making a bunch of smaller goals and acomplishing them I gain self respect and pride as well as the knowledge that I can in fact do it.
so what is your goal? think about it, decide what makes you excited, it can be anything really, DDR, sewing, travel, school grades, collections or anything else you can imagine.
now for the next step, write down your goals, I would recomend comming up with two or three goals and write them down. once you have goals with completion dates and they have been written down it will be harder to forget them. now take that peice of paper and make a copy, put it by your bed and read it every night before you go to bed and every day as soon as you get up. try to read it out loud in a confidant voice, like you have already done the thing or like it somthing so trival that you can easily acomplish it.
once thats done get a cue card or a thick peice of paper, cut it down to twice the side of a business card verticaly and the same size horizontaly, write your goals on this peice of paper and fold it over so the goals are on the inside of the crease like a card or letter, put that in your wallet (or what ever you carry) and any time you find your mind wandering and you start thinking about things that bother you whip it out and read it out loud (or just to yourself if your in public) and think about what you can do right then to further your goal.
I know this was a thick read and I am sorry about that but I felt that this might help you out, I cant say for sure if it will or not but I can hope. I am aviable if you need any help with making goals or anything really, just message me or e-mail me.
best wishes all
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Apr 30, 2007 12:45:56 GMT -5
Post by orphan on Apr 30, 2007 12:45:56 GMT -5
hello there, i've just logged into you all not sure what i'm doing just yet, but finding the conversation extremely interesting for someone of my age ....totally past it some would say......i'm told i don't look it and i certainly don't act like it, anyway bare with me will you until i can get the hang of what your all doing.
Right now i'm very sad you see my Mum died suddenly 6 weeks ago and it was such a shock i'm not sure i'll ever be the same again. She hadn't been ill or anything but she was disabled and i looked after her on my own virtually for years, doing every thing for her and protecting her as you would a small child and suddenly she's not there anymore. My MUm bless her heart believed in heaven and new that when she passed that she would be with my Dad who also went suddenly some years ago, this has given me some comfort i also believe this is so, it's just not hearing her voice or seeing her thats a hard pill to swallow, i know with time things get easier but it is very hard right now although i am better than i was, i am so sorry to come on here and maybe make people sad iam not like this usually, having read some of the previous emails, i just felt that it's up to each and every one of us to make the most of each day and of what ever little we think we have, you leave with exactly what you arrived with so enjoy what you have, if your thinking of splashing out on something but think no i'd better not my advice is go for it and enjoy doing it, everyone worries about this and that but at the end of the day worrying won't make a blind bit of differance what will be and all that.......i find myself being totally thankful just for natual things in life , like being able to see and hear things and cheer on my favourite football team-LIVERPOOL- and so on when your young you don't think about these things but imagine for one moment if you couldn't hear see or speak all the money or anything else couldn't make this right, all i'm trying to say is we are all natually extremely rich take care all of you
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Apr 30, 2007 12:48:52 GMT -5
Post by orphan on Apr 30, 2007 12:48:52 GMT -5
forgot to mention that i'm in england and it's 6.35 in the evening orphan
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